Getting part of my Halloween costume ready. Less is more right? #tessmunster #idowhatiwant #Halloween #curvy
A) #curvy, is NOT a proper tag. I understand that we are all supposed to be pleased with our bodies, but we are also supposed to be healthy.
B) I weigh 114lbs, and even THAT is too much for me.
I’m not saying you’re fat, I am saying you should take a harder look in the mirror,
and get yourself into shape, because if you have self confidence now, you’ll have EVEN MORE if you hit the gym, eat healthy, and stay active.
C) I could not sit by and idly let this happen without saying something.
Sorry to those I offend, However, That’s life.
I refuse to be nice just because this is Tumblr.
You picked on the wrong FAT/CURVY/BIG/OBESE girl my dear. Say what you want but my confidence is through the roof despite what small minded girls like you say. Since you broke this down in bullet points for me, to make it easy for me to understand, let me do the same for you:
1) Who are you to say what I should look like or how I should feel? Perhaps I’m not the one that should look in the mirror because I’m perfectly happy with the way I look. From the way it sounds you are the one that has issues with your body: “I weigh 114lbs, and even THAT is too much for me.” If you can’t be happy at 114lbs with yourself, then clearly your weight is not your issue. But then again, WHO AM I TO JUDGE?!
2) Speaking of “mirrors”, Remember, we are all mirror images of each other and what you don’t like in me, you see in yourself.
3) “I refuse to be nice just because this is Tumblr.” Yes, this might just be tumblr, but you should really think before you speak. You never know who you will insult, what kind of day they are having, etc. How would you feel if your one rude (and frankly unnecessary comment) was the one thing that pushed them over the edge?
4) Define ‘Healthy’.
Thank goodness I’m fat and have a thick skin to deal with such nonsense. Some other poor girl that you feel you need to ‘help’ might not be so lucky.
You know what, it makes me sad that I saw this picture, and immediately thought, “Oh boy, someone is going to have something rude to say,” and I was right. On the other hand, I am thrilled to see someone stand up for their body—even though it shouldn’t be remarkable, and it shouldn’t even have to happen.
Learning from the body acceptance/HAES movement has really helped me stay in recovery from an eating disorder; now I realize that when I was upset by someone’s size, I was just reacting to my own pathological fear of weight gain. (Did you know that more girls are afraid of being fat than losing their parents, cancer, or nuclear war? I didn’t, but I’m not shocked.) Because, seriously, how insane is it to be so mad about someone else’s body?
As an aside, it’s also helped me consider the social privileges of being naturally thin. If I eat a brownie and (coconut milk) ice cream for dessert, no one cares. Sure, I work out and eat healthfully, but you don’t know that for sure! Why wouldn’t you judge me for eating so much sugar? (Pro tip: Because I’m thin.) Everyone else deserves the same freedom from judgment by random people who have no reason to give a shit.
In terms of health, I no longer track what I eat or weigh myself regularly. I focus on being healthy, and not equating that with weight. I had to weigh myself so I knew what to put on my driver’s license form when I moved, but there’s no scale in the house, which is probably one of the best single things I’ve ever done for my mental health. I’m also about 115 pounds (on a 5’ 6” frame). And it’s taken me close to a decade, but I’m okay with that, and a lot of it comes from watching the body acceptance movement develop. I would love a world where people don’t feel so miserable about themselves and “healthy” isn’t a socially-acceptable code-word for “skinny.”
So, thank you for being happy with yourself. I know no one needs my validation, and I always kind of question how welcome I can be in a body-acceptance movement as someone with a body that people accept by default, but the inundation of constant body-negativity that we’re all drowned in is harmful, and it makes me happy to see people being done with it.